“ALWAYS DRESS FOR THE JOB YOU WANT NEXT, NOT THE JOB YOU HAVE NOW.
This may not be trendy or popular in today’s business casual world, but it has stood me in good stead. It makes me feel more confident and capable. Someone may notice you and think, “She would be a good candidate for promotion to president/dean/director, etc.” Do you want to move up with more responsibility? Do you think that your ideas might move your organization or firm forward into a brighter future? Treat yourself to an amazing wardrobe.

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SPEND ENERGY WISELY (“BE THE WATER THAT FLOWS AROUND THE ROCK AND EVENTUALLY WEARS IT AWAY”).
Women lawyers – still – apparently receive inappropriate and offensive words, looks, gestures, and actions, probably daily. It has taken me 38 years to acknowledge many situations in law school and practice that were wrong. I should have complained and may have had good causes of action. There’s a balance here between honoring yourself and honoring how you spend your time and energy. There’s no need to pretend that offensive things didn’t occur or aren’t occurring, but there’s no need to wear oneself out, either. I choose to spend energy on my own personal goals and actions, which leads to the next point.”